Habits can be buggers. Well let’s say the habits that you suddenly find are making you feel depressed, trapped, negative, incapable with resulting actions of inertia, argue, ineffective, comfort eat, over-spend, drink or smoke etc.
Typically, people develop a set of habits without noticing. You responded to something once in a way that worked for you; it made you feel better at that moment, you got attention, or it made a situation seem ok.
Old habits of thinking, that are no longer serving you and are in-fact hindering you, will keep their grip unless you take action to determinedly develop new, more resourceful patterns. (Old habits became habits because they were repeated so much that they became automatic and you could repeat them without ever needing to consciously do so).
To grow new patterns into habits requires you to consciously choose to repeat your new resourceful pattern consistently at every opportunity, to give that new pattern the chance to become a habit.
We should also consider the impact of negative thoughts, biochemically. Consistent negative thinking will have a compounding negative impact, generating more negative thoughts, impacting your health, increasing stress and anxiety. Negative thinking and focus is a huge energy drain.
Positive thinking has the opposite and indeed positively compounding impact, benefitting mental, physical and creative capacities. Interestingly, positive thinking and focus generates energy.
Focus is a choice. You choose where you place your focus. By choosing to focus on what is right now, what is right, right now, without judgement, you will improve your health, both mental and physical as well as increase your energy, increase your sense of options, and your capacity to learn. You will also increase your effectiveness. All you have to do is choose to choose your focus. Choose to choose where you place your energies. You can choose to change your life. Otherwise you can choose to choose not to. This is no different to choosing to exercise and get good at a sport, or to choose not to.
Metaphorically consider whether you would choose to cultivate Japanese Knot Weed or Bind Weed in your garden, or alternatively pay attention and ensure that every bit of Japanese Knot Weed or Bind Weed that comes through in your garden is quickly dug up, instead nurturing the plants that you want to flourish.
“choose to choose to repeat your new resourceful pattern consistently at every opportunity to give that new pattern the chance to become a habit”
